YESSINGS ~ The Art of Dream Defense!

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I wanted to share some dialog I’ve been doing with my inner critic (something I’ve been working on while going through SARK’s Dream Boogie program). This is a great exercise to try and I encourage others to try something like this as well. It’s amazing how nasty that inner critic can get. Try imagining your inner critic is an actual person. What would you say to him/her? What would he/she say to you? It’s a good exercise in DREAM DEFENSE.

DREAM 1: Launching an online e-book publishing company:
INNER CRITIC SAYS: You have no connections in publishing – what makes you think you can help endorse anyone? What gives you the right to pursue this dream?
MY RESPONSE TO CRITIC: My passion will find a way. It’s a reality already in my mind. I believe ~ and at the very least, I’d like to try. I’m sure I’ll learn some things and make connections AS I GO.

DREAM 2: Writing a book about a new creative movement I’ve been researching and experiencing that’s matured over recent years, but has been developing for over the past two decades.
INNER CRITIC SAYS: What the heck do YOU know about anything? Are you some kind of expert on this? HA to that.
MY RESPONSE TO CRITIC: Yes, I AM an expert (in one way) because this is MY idea. I am THE expert on this book, because it exists in my mind’s eye. I can see it all. Besides, my book will use my research and interviews with those who I consider to be experienced experts in the field. This will help add credibility to the concept, as well, since I am an unknown.

DREAM 3: Launching a corporate “Create-A-Way” program, helping cubicle prisoners to revive their creative spirit, and FREEING their creative self OUT OF THE BOX.
INNER CRITIC SAYS: Can you really see yourself meeting with corporate executives and offering this as a serious suggestion? What if they don’t care about offering “creative fru-fru” wellness programs to their employees? The suits will laugh at you.
MY RESPONSE TO CRITIC: Meet with corporate execs? Who says I have to go ALL THE WAY, RIGHT AWAY? I can offer this as a fun online program, offered to individuals, doing my own marketing, and maybe as it gains popularity & support, THEN I’ll gather the courage to meet directly with company HR reps. Baby steps, man. Baby steps.

Dream 4: Finish writing and publishing three children’s books that are in the works – in various stages.
INNER CRITIC SAYS: You’ll never have time to finish writing anything. You have too much going on – especially with your kids. Time to write? HA!!
MY RESPONSE TO CRITIC: I’ll make time. If there is one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that if I have the passion to do something and the will to get it done, I can use the tiniest bit of time to baby step myself through. If there’s a will, there’s a way, as the saying goes!!

Dream 5: Finish writing my autobiographical story of moving to the States when I was twelve.
INNER CRITIC SAYS: Why? Who wants to read about your life? What makes you so special? You’re not famous – why should anyone care to read about you?
MY RESPONSE TO CRITIC: I have always believed every life has a story to share ~ we learn from the life we live. How can that be boring? This concept applies to me as much as it applies to anyone else. Besides, I don’t really care if this book ever sells. I just have to write it. It’s an important part of my life that I need to put down on paper ~ in a format I can be proud of ~ and maybe others will read it too! I want to make it something that anyone can read and enjoy, and hopefully something other adolescents can read and enjoy. Besides, it isn’t meant to be “a book about me.” It’s a story. It’s a story I have to tell. Characters and relationships I want to nail down on paper for eternity. It’s a past I don’t want to forget. At least when I’m finished writing it, I will be able to say “I DID IT!”

Isn’t it amazing that the lower self will speak more harshly to you than anyone else ever has or will in your life? Why are we so nasty to ourselves? This exercise is great. I’m not one who has a lot of time on my hands, but a BRIEF exercise like this works wonders.

Try it! And if you like, tell me how it works for you!

5 Comments

  1. Scylliane

    What a wonderful technique ! I use it too but I’m not so self assured as you appear !

    You’re dreams are gigantic, I wish you the best for the Create a Way program, my favourite in this list !

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    • Wendy Fedan

      Thank you! I’m working hard on the self assured part – when I put that dialog down on paper, seeing just how nasty my lower self can get, I tend to react much more defensively than if I just have the conversation in my mind.
      Thanks so much for your moral support!!

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  2. Amy Lee

    How sweet to visit me, Wendy! I write and chose the photos really for myself but when someone else takes the time to connect and share their thoughts and feelings on what they like, like you did – it is a true gift to me.

    Did anyone ever tell you that you remind them of sunshine? ‘Cause you do for me!

    I love this entry by the way, especially number #5. Everyone has a story. I’d love to support you in doing so…

    Have you heard of Natalie Goldberg, she has a book on writing memoir called, Old Friend From Far Away. (I have it on cd) Highly recommended. If you want maybe, we could body up – do an writing exercise and send it to each other. We could have a memoir date once a month via email, the phone, or maybe even Skype.

    Love and light – Amy Lee

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    • Amy Lee

      buddy* up,

      ha, excuse my misprint of body for buddy*

      I have some trouble with translating and distinguishing words from mind to computer

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      • wfedan

        Ha! That’s so funny – I actually READ it the way you MEANT it, not even catching the funny typo.
        WOW!!! I would LOOOOVE to “buddy up” with you with a memoir date! This would be an excellent motivation for me to “micro move” my way through the book! I have been working on it since I was thirteen – began as a journal, and has developed over time into a book (I’m probably halfway completed – with some leftover editing to do, of course). I have recently been introduced to the concept of “Divine Timing” which really gives me peace about the fact that this book is still being written. I began it as a life record, and now as an adult I can add special incite and knowledge to make it into a nice, entertaining piece of work.
        I really feel a connection with you – your son and my son are the same age – also have a daughter who will be turning five this August.
        I love your website – It’s so calming, thought-provoking, inviting.
        Thank you so much for the “sunshine” comment! That makes me pretty happy!
        When is our first memoir date? Let’s do this, Boogie Bud! :) :) Thank you, Amy Lee!

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